The Circle of
Life
6 -7-1998
By Dale G. Cox
You get a
circle by
taking a line and orienting it to the degree that it turns back around
and meets itself. Life happens much the same way, only sometimes we
don't
remember the beginnings or the ends. We have heard comments like "what
goes around comes around", and "you get what you deserve." But how
exactly
does that work. Contrary to popular disbelief, there are some dynamic
laws
that define not only the nature of matter in the universe, but also the
nature of spirit. You are Spirit inhabiting matter. These laws are not
long and drawn out like some of the other laws we live by. There's just
a few and their pretty simple.
The circle
is a metaphor
for one of them, it is commonly mentioned in many of our traditional
religions.
So, how does that relate to you?
One
way is in the relationships you have in your life. Every single person
you meet and involve yourself with during your life is there for a
reason.
The reason is that they help you change your perspective. They help you
grow, willingly or unwillingly. They say things to you, they do things
to you, they make you feel. But, you also do the same thing to them.
Each
and every one of them. The circle comes in how we relate with each of
them.
Sometimes we don't and the circle becomes a lose thread we eventually
lose.
Sometimes we do and the circle spreads itself way out over many years.
We bring it full circle when we come to the realization we are only
here
to learn. Relationships teach us about ourselves. We've gotten caught
up
in the act of reacting to specific stimulus, drawing our conclusions in
life from that which exists outside of us. Rather than drawing on that
which is within, and being the stimulus for our own lives. The reason
being
is we don't truly understand the nature of relationships. A lot of our
involvement's are out of convenience, for comfort, validation,
security.
We seek people who will make us feel these things without conflict. We
know conflict makes us grow, but at the expense of our comfort. So much
around us makes us uncomfortable, we think that experience is outside
of
us. When it is actually within.
We have
focused life
on the relationships outside of us, rather than having one within us.
This
is to be expected. That's why we have special people come into our
lives
and show us what lies within. The circle is joined when we acknowledge
this dynamic. Rather than think a certain person makes us feel a
certain
way. We see that a certain person shows us that specific certain thing
about ourselves. This dynamic become very difficult when it is a so
called
love relationship. We are finally comfortable enough to let our walls
down.
Then we begin to realize all the fears we have clung to, if we are
lucky
we recognize them as our own. If not, love eventually turns to fear,
resentment,
jealousy, and hate. Someone we presume to have loved, now becomes a
lose
thread in our past. We are left confused about what we thought we
wanted.
We were looking externally for something that can only exist internally.
Reconciliation
now
becomes the metaphor for the circle. We find the courage to reopen a
dialogue,
we hear their side of the story, we put aside our fears, we realize
this
person was only there to help us, we are grateful, we realize the
special
gift they have labored to give us merely by playing themselves, and
that
our own fears are to blame for the pain we suffered. What? You think
people
are inherently bad? That they seek to hurt us because they don't care.
Here's a reality check. The way we have been taught to seek
relationships
in this society is, we seek ownership of every soul we encounter. If it
happens to allow us to let down our walls, we feel dramatically
vulnerable,
that soul we seek to control most assertively. We track that soul
wherever
it goes, we want to know what its doing at all times. We seek to
contractually
bind it to us, so no other soul may ever experience it. We lock it up
and
dare it to hurt us. And if it does we lash out at it violently. We heap
all manner of abuses upon it in the name of the freedom it has shown us
within
ourselves. Nice reward for such a special gift. In case you didn't
notice,
this behavior is DYSFUNCTIONAL. I repeat, it is DYSFUNCTIONAL.
Every soul walking this planet is sovereign unto itself. It owes no
allegiance
to any government, religion, law, corporation, or conscious entity
outside
of itself. This includes you. The reason we have such a violent social
and emotional environment in our society today, is we have left too
many
lose strings. We have not honored the circle of reconciliation. We have
not allowed other souls to part from us free of malice. What comes
around
goes around, and keeps going until we come full circle and resolve it,
within us.
We can
choose not to.
In which case, the fears we don't resolve in this lifetime become the
subject
matter of the next. The Universe is very consistent in its adherence to
this dynamic. It is one of the most important. Thru it we evolve! You
will
not be in this reality and not evolve. Your lessons will only become
harder,
until you think they will literally kill you. And they will,
physically,
if need be. Your spirit, however, is infinite, it will never die. It
will
eventually learn and grow. What we experience as ourselves, ego,
sometimes
refuses to grow. Instead, it insists on dominating spirit, for the sake
of survival. It is ego that causes us to seek to enslave other souls to
us for comfort. Because ego cannot perceive the nature of spirit. It
believes
it is alone. It is not. In courage, spirit grows to define itself
separate
from ego. Until eventually ego lets go, the spirit is freed from its
imprisonment
by fear, and something very special happens. This is the process of
relationships.
They come and they go. We must learn to let someone go as freely as we
let them come. To be blessed by their presence, as well as their
absence.
To learn to love in more than one way. Because in essence, we are
learning
to experience ourselves in more than one dimension. We can love in more
than one way. When we can allow many souls to make us comfortable
enough
to let our walls down, we participate in a very special dynamic indeed!
The angels will do more than sings.
That is only the beginning of an
even larger
circle. Reconciliation allows us to understand how the other person
felt
in relation to how we felt. It allows us to say we're sorry.
Reconciliation
allows us to recognize that fear within ourselves we needed to see, and
understand it. Open communication is the key to reconciliation, it
dispells
the fear of illusion. Forgiveness allows us to release bad energy,
rather
than dragging it with us into our next lifetime, after it destroys us
from
within during this one. There will be other lessons. One lesson at a
time.
One fear at a time. Life is an experience you keep on living. You are
foolish
to think you can achieve a place of perfect comfort outside of
yourself.
That place only resides within. Seek every face with purpose and
respect.
Learn to complete the circle, and that simple image will open doors of
understanding the likes of which you can't even imagine. Come in peace,
go in Peace. And your way will be peaceful. Shalom.
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